Goal Setting for 2016 and Beyond Part 4

Now list goals in areas you want to feel more fulfilled:

  • Mindfulness: Decrease television.
  • Health Exercise: Exercise every day, eat plant based diet, drink 80 oz. water, take vitamins daily.
  • Spirituality: Practice weekly yoga
  • Work Purpose: N/A
  • Work Time: Create an organized and efficient schedule.
  • Financial: Create and stick to budget.
  • Family: Take 6 long weekends to be with family. Write a weekly letter.
  • Romantic Relationship: N/A
  • Adventure/Travel: Make one big trip this year.
  • Hobbies: Crossfit, blogging and horseback riding
  • Friends: N/A

So for 2016 I will:

  • Limit television to one weeknight.
  • I will exercise every day.
  • Eat a predominantly plant based diet
  • Drink 80 oz of water
  • Take daily supplements
  • Practice yoga once a week
  • Create an organized and efficient weekly schedule
  • Create daily to do lists at work
  • Adhere to budget
  • Spend 6 weekends with family
  • Write one letter a week
  • Take one big vacation
  • Do three months of Crossfit
  • Blog weekly
  • Take a horseback riding class

Goal Setting for 2016 and Beyond Part 3

Inspiration and Energy

List out items I enjoy doing:

  • Cooking
  • Organizing
  • Walking my dog
  • Lifting weights
  • Drinking wine
  • Trying new food
  • Pampering myself
  • Hiking
  • Talking to strangers while traveling
  • Watching tv that puts me in a good mood
  • Writing letters
  • Telling people what to do
  • Planning parties
  • Planting, growing, picking flowers
  • Holding baby animals
  • Decorating
  • Running
  • Shopping

Now list 5 hobbies I miss doing:

  • Horseback riding
  • Blogging
  • Wine tasting
  • Hiking
  • Going out

5 classes I would take if I had the resources:

  • Horseback riding
  • Knitting
  • Crossfit
  • Yoga teacher training
  • Event planning

Select the things you want to add to your goal list for the year. (Since I do a lot of these already, I thought I would select newer items or items I want to invest more time in.)

Goal Setting for 2016 and Beyond Part 2

Next step is to think about my big dreams.

What things could I do that would have my 80 year old self saying, “Good job. That was worth it.”

I think about the moments in my life that stick out to me. Those moments involve friends, family and travel. It isn’t what I do every day. The parts of my life that I love and I know that will make me happy as I age is investing time in the people I love doing exciting things together.

What would you do if you could do anything? What would you do if you knew you could not fail?

This is a tough question for me. I don’t believe there is one thing I want to do. There are a million things and I would like to switch between them.

  • Teach yoga
  • Run a spice and tea shop
  • Travel professionally
  • Start a mentoring program for girls
  • Event planning
  • Corporate organizational consultation

Goal Setting for 2016 and Beyond Part 1

While sitting with my friend in a restaurant in Chicago two weekends ago, we discussed Lululemon’s goal setting worksheet. I scoured Pinterest to find it, but discovered another goal setting worksheet that I felt would be a good exercise. It was all downloaded and ready to go, but I put it off. Yesterday, I was in a large work meeting lasting several hours. Our VP shared a concept I had heard before. “A person over estimates what they can accomplish in a short amount of time, but under estimates what they can accomplish in a long amount of time.” This was the wake up call I needed to try to get myself in order. I love my daily to do lists, but what the hell am I doing with my life?

So, to get this project started, I need to describe how I feel now, how I want to feel and the action I can make to accomplish that. Then identify the top 3 on the list and state of things are monthly, weekly or daily tasks.

  • I feel tethered to financial responsibility: Financially free. Stick to a budget with healthy and reasonable financial goals. D
  • I feel like I am aging more rapidly than I want: I want my skin and hair to reflect health. Take vitamins. Eat a plant based diet. Exercise more. Drink lots of water. Budget for a beauty regimen. D
  • I feel lonely when I think about how far away my family is: I want to feel connected to my family. I want to build closer relationships. Write more letters. Utilize long weekends. Call your family. M
  • I feel overweight: I want to feel confident in the way I look. Take vitamins. Eat a plant based diet. Exercise more. Drink lots of water. D
  • I don’t feel creative: I to keep this part of myself alive. Start blogging. Take more photos. Create workout plans or yoga flows. Garden. W
  • I feel frustrated with my romantic life: There is way too much to even write here.
  • I feel like I am on the precipice of a large amount of work at work: I want to feel like I have work under control and that I am succeeding. Get organized. Set boundaries. Work efficiently. D
  • I feel I can be overbearing: I want to feel like I receive as much as I dish out. Shut up once in a while. D
  • I feel overwhelmed at times with things I need to do. I want to feel free to just relax. Create manageable to do lists. W

760 Days

I have loved you with my inner most being for 760 days. I have adored you for 1,491 days. I have known you and liked you for 2,219 days. Of my 11,842 days, you have been a part of some of the happiest days. Perhaps, that would mean little to me if I had an additional 5,500 days. Fuck you. I love you so much.

You are my everything and yet nothing. My heart holds hope, but expects nothing. I am blessed, but cheated.

*I found this in my drafts and wanted to share it. What a ride.

20 Things You Need to Know About Dating a Strong Woman

1. We need alone time. A little each day and more than a little on other days. It doesn’t mean we’ve lost interest in you.

2. We don’t mind if you don’t call or text us every second. We like it. We won’t be contacting you either. That said, if you’re late, don’t keep us guessing as to when you’ll show up as we’ll make other plans.

3. We can clean up our own messes. We’re not waiting around for you to fix our problems.

4. We are perfectly fine doing chores, running errands, and exercising by ourselves. If you want to join us, we’re glad to have you along, but don’t talk to us while we’re in the zone.

5. We sign up and attend charity events, races, and cultural exhibits on our own. We don’t need a date to feel comfortable at these things. Set us loose in a room with a bunch of people and we’ll have 10 best friends before the night is through.

6. If we have a sleep over, don’t expect me to cuddle you all night and cook you a hot breakfast. I will actually want to sleep and we can go out to the diner for brunch.

7. If we go to a party where it’s mostly your friends, I don’t need you hovering. I’m perfectly capable of chatting it up with endless amounts of strangers. I’ll even enjoy it. But don’t completely forget about me either as you’re probably my favorite person in the room.

8. We are comfortable paying our own way and will feel funny if you constantly insist on treating us. We don’t mind splitting restaurant bills with you. In fact, it makes us feel like we don’t owe you anything. We never expect you to pay for us or buy us gifts. If it’s not on a birthday or an anniversary, it feels like a bribe.

9. We will never ask you to lend us money. If we do, we feel odd and uncomfortable until we pay you pack.

10. We are capable of going to the bathroom by ourselves. But sometimes we just prefer the company of a friend.

11. We work because we want our own career. We’re not depending on you to be our sugar daddies. Don’t expect us to take a day off on a moment’s notice just because you bought tickets to a baseball game at 1 PM on a Tuesday. We have ambition and take pride in our work.

12. If you want to go watch football or to happy hour with friends, we’re cool with that. Actually, we prefer it, on occasion, because it gives us the chance to catch up with our own friends or spend the night catching up on our independent interests.

13. We know how to save money and are actively interested in planning for our own retirement. We know what a 401K plan is.

14. The idea of getting married sounds great with the right person. But we’re perfectly capable of taking care of ourselves if need be. We choose to be in relationship because we like you, not because we can’t live without you.

15. Sometimes, instead of a romantic partner, we secretly want to marry a cook / cleaning person / personal trainer / masseuse / stylist versus anybody else. If you happen to be one or more of these things, we will love you even more.

16. We like to fix things ourselves and will usually bring a step stool over to get things off of high shelves, even if you’re way taller.

17. We can be stubborn and adamant about handling things a certain way even if you’ve been through something before and want to give us advice. Forgive us. Let us try it our own way first, even if your intentions are good.

18. We get very frustrated with extremely needy, co-dependent people. This frustration may make us seem callous or icy, but it’s more about wanting to see people help themselves.

19. At times, we may seem so self-reliant, content and in control that you may wonder whether you’re needed in our lives. You are. We are confident and directed but cherish someone who appreciates, rather than fears, these qualities.

20. We still love a big hug, lots of affection, and to be told how much we’re loved. Tell us we look pretty every now and then and don’t let us shrug it off. Independence will never trump the desire to feel adored.

Holly Golightly’s Apartment

I’ve been obsessing about Holly’s New York Apartment from Breakfast at Tiffany’s. I guess I never really looked at the set of the apartment while watching. I usually focused on the interaction and the story telling. But man oh man do I love her place. It is simple but eccentric. I think I might start sleeping in a tuxedo shirt. Oh Holly.